Men (married and single) Seeking Sexuality Online

Men seeking online sexual pleasures, why do they do it? Addiction? Are they entrenched in a life that does not allow them to explore their erotic desires, therefore the only means for them is online cam models? This podcast will shed some light on this issue from a neutral standpoint by answering some questions.

Since Gen X times and before there is much evolution in terms of sexuality going more public and becoming less taboo. Most of the time in a marriage that has spanned a high number of years, one party always is more in tuned with sexuality than the other which can often lead to conflict, misunderstandings. 

Let me start by saying, as an online virtual Mistress/Domme sex worker I do not control who comes to my profile nor do I ask about their personal lives, as to me I am providing a virtual service they are seeking. 

In my opinion on why married men seek online sexual pleasures, because they cannot express their true fetishes or sexual needs in real life, online they are free to create their own reality/fantasy where they can act and transform into a role they deem sexual to them and at the same time get the pleasure they seek.

It is not always the old stereotype that the one partner lost interest in all things sexual due to life's curveballs, so that partner either cheats with someone in real life or goes online. I truly believe that it is to satisfy a sexual desire or fetish. 

Men will be able to paint the picture they want of  themselves online even though it is far from the truth. This adds and amplifies the fantasy and pleasure to its fullest and at the same time adds to the excitement. 

I believe today, people have many online venues to enhance and intensify their sexual pleasure which as we all know, is like an addiction and cannot be stopped. It is similar to quitting smoking or taking drugs, drinking alcohol. One can kid oneself and say “ I will never do it again, I will delete all my accounts on all adult sites, and promise to be good”. That does not last long before they go find a way in a hidden and more discrete manner.

I do not condone cheating, but then again every human has a different definition of what cheating means. I believe it means “going behind your partners back in essence lying to them and meeting another person in real life for a sexual encounter”. Or not telling your partner if/when they ask “where were you today? I called your cell and you did not answer” and you come up with some lie or excuse so they don’t get upset. Let me say to all the liars, this increases the guilt in the brain that you lied to your partner which makes you a distrustful person, because you were too afraid to come forward and face the music.  

Why is online different? Online is turning on a platform or app and getting off for a brief time and off it goes, no meetups, no danger in terms of disease, less chance of someone you know seeing you. Also, the confidentiality factor is much higher. 

Now, if your partner discovers your browser history and gets upset, you did not take proper precautions, and there is an element of mistrust on both parties, as well the embarrassment of being found out which is really society imposed fears. 

I believe in this case, it is best to have a frank, honest, intellectual, no holds barred discussion about sexual desires and fantasies, and come to an understanding about limits and boundaries that will not be violated but both parties are aware. It beats having one partner to lie, and sneak around to find the time to go online and get their jollies. This beats the policing and detective sleuthing partners have to do because they suspect funny business.